March Madness

I am so glad that March is here. I love the fact that Spring is around the corner. I love Augusta in the Spring. I love dogwood trees, especially the pink ones. I love Masters week. I love Easter. I love the fact that cold weather will soon be a thing of the past. I am definitely a warm weather girl. I think the sun and warmth will do wonders for my morale as I go through the back half of this treatment regimen.

I have completed my second round of chemo. My oncologist added in some new medications to help with the digestive side effects that the chemotherapy brings on. I have to say that round 2 was easier than round 1. I only lost 7 pounds this time around, and I was able to get through my follow-up appointment without the breakdown of the decade. I spared my poor doctor the "Steel Magnolias" beauty shop scene complete with snot and orange juice. My main complaint this time was the emotional symptoms brought on by the steroids I receive before my infusion. I was in full blown "roid rage" by day 3. Everything and everyone had wronged me in some way. The kids were having too much fun, Christian crunched chips too loud, and although I was surrounded with my family and friends most of the weekend, I felt completely alone. The best thing I could do for myself and everyone around me was sleep. And sleep I did. I made up for at least 3 months of 1998, in one weekend.  

I have spoken to other cancer patients about this "alone in a crowded room" phenomenon. I really thought I was going crazy, but it turns out that most people who have faced cancer have faced this feeling. It is a desperate, scary state to be in. I can confidently say that this feeling, by far, is the hardest part of this disease. This is where support groups and conversations with other cancer survivors has been the most helpful for me. When I first meet a woman who has been through breast cancer, it immediately feels as if we have known each other a lifetime. So, if you are reading this at home and you have been through cancer, reach out to others who are in the trenches, because your story can change the course of the day or week for someone. 

Almost all of my hair is gone. There still remains a little halo of fuzz. When I look at myself in the mirror, my physical appearance can be hard to swallow. The mastectomy scars, my port and now my bald head...it is so crazy how life has changed in 4 months. I think I have mourned my hair loss more than the boob loss. I was able to cover my flat chest with a sweater or scarf, but when the hair is gone, there is nowhere to hide. I cannot pretend that nothing is wrong.  I cannot fake it. I have cancer. I have been covered up with complements. My head shape is a hit!! I am grateful my head isn't shaped like Sloth from the Goonies.  All I can say is, Target's winter hat clearance sale and rouge have saved me. 

I had the chance to share a meal with old friends from nursing school the other day. It was a time to catch up, and share our struggles and victories. I left the restaurant with a renewed since of gratitude for my life experiences, even the painful ones. It has been these rock bottom moments where I have seen things the clearest and experienced God's grace to the fullest. And I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I have never been alone. 

With Easter approaching, I pray that I can focus on the good, positive things in my life, rather than feel sorry for myself. I am thankful for my husband who crunches, my friends who visit even when I have steroid rage, my understanding employers, doctors with big brains and DVR. I am thankful for sunshine and photography and 90's music. I am thankful for belly laughs, and the ability to laugh at myself. I am thankful for my kids and their bravery, my church family that has prayed for me for over 20 years. Survivor stories, My dad's gentle hands, my mom's ability to know exactly what I need, even when I don't. My friends who are working tirelessly on the fundraiser, so my bills will be paid. Strangers that pray for me. Memories of where I have been that will keep me from going there again, Jesus, who endured a torture much worse than chemo, and sherbert punch. 






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